YOU - A Reflection | Blogmas Day 2

I've been thinking a lot lately. Not that I don't think a lot normally, I do, but recently I've had this urge to talk about it more, to share it I guess.

Maybe it's the season that's got me into a pensive state but I think it's a good thing anyway. I've come to the conclusion lately that it's important to stop worrying about things and apologising for things that are out of our control. It's nothing ground breaking I know, but I do feel like it's something that only really rings true when your ready yourself to accept it. People say things like 'life is short' and 'don't wish your life away' all the time and it's very easy to ignore them and pass them off, but there comes a time where these phrases hit home. And you really do get this sense of freedom and liberation once you let go of everything that is out of your hands. There is a lot in life that we can't control, that is scary and unnerving, but there are things in life you can control and those are the things that really matter.

What it takes is to get out of your own head. Sounds silly, but it is so easy to get caught up inside yourself and this can be the worst thing to do. Putting some distance between you and your thoughts, whether physically or metaphorically, can be refreshing and can give you a whole new perspective.

Talking also helps a lot. Expressing how you feel and think is cathartic! Tell your friends you love and appreciate them, tell your family you miss them, tell someone your having a bad day. Allow people to help you, allow people to cheer you up, allow them to celebrate you. Don't reject emotion and vulnerability. For such a long time I shut out emotional attachments to people because I was scared. Scared of getting hurt, cheated, betrayed. But the only person this affects is you. You suffer at the hands of yourself. And finally coming to this realisation has helped me a great deal. 

Another thing is to stop comparing yourself to others. Easier said than done and it's been said a million times. But no matter how much you do it, you will never be any less you. End off. You are you and there is nothing you can do about it. Yes, there may be things you dislike about yourself but do you really think that everyone loves everything about themselves?

The thing is you will only ever achieve what you allow yourself to achieve and you will only accomplish this when you are ready to. As someone once said to me, it may be today, it may be tomorrow, you may not be ready for months but one day you will be, and whenever that is, that's ok.

As you already know 'those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'.

I think my main point from this is to learn to trust. Trust yourself and trust others. It's hard but it's possible and it's amazing what it can bring you. 

You should be 100% unapologetically you, and no one should make you feel bad or lesser for that.

When better than christmas time to bring everyone back together and to share the love.

Love, Beth xo